From the Alzheimer's Sourcebook for Caregivers

1. Do you feel that no-one else can look after your relative as well as you can?
   
   
2. Do you go for weeks without taking even an hour off?
   
   
3. Would you feel you had abandoned your relative if you took him or her to a day respite program?
   
   
4. Do you feel that only you can understand him or her and that letting others provide care would hurt, frighten or otherwise damage your relative?
   
   
5. Do you feel anxious, exhausted or irritable most of the time?
   
   
6. Do you secretly feel angry with your relative, and then feel deeply ashamed of your unnatural feelings and become obsessed by guilt?
   
   
7. Have you dropped all your previous hobbies, friends and interests?
   
   
8. Would you rather die than let your relative go into full-time professional care?
   
   
9. Do you avoid going to support groups because you could never share your feelings with strangers, and/or you are sure such groups are full of people who just make each other miserable?
   
   
10. Do you keep all your fears, needs and feelings to yourself because you aren't the kind of person who shares such things with others?
    
    
11. Are you sure that no good caregivers can be found?